life advice (post new situation)
 
 
"DRAINED"
 
OK WELL I BEEN WORKING 2 JOBS FOR THE PAST YEAR I GO TO COLLEGE 2 DAYS A WEEK. iM ONLY 22 IM A FEMALE LATELY I BEEN DRAINED OUT TIRED JUST WANNA GO TO SLEEP. WELL I ALSO HAVE A BOYFRIEND WHO I HAVE TO MAKE TIME FOR A FAMILY THAT WANTS TO ALSO SEE ME WELL MY BOYFRIEND DOESNT UNDERSTAND THE FACT THAT SOMETIMES IM TIRED FROM WORKING 14 HOURS A DAY AND ALL I WANNA DO IS GO HOME N SLEEP SO I GO N LAY WITH HIM AT HIS BED FOR ABOUT A HOUR N SPEND TIME WITH HIM BUT LATELY I HAVENT BEEN WANTING TO HAVE SEX I FEEL SO TIRED N STRESSED OUT BECAUSE I HAVE TO TRAIN THIS NEW GIRL AT WORK SOMEHOW MANAGE TO GET MY HOMEWORK OUT THE WAY N IM TIRED I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART BUT WHEN IT COEMS TO US HAVING SEX LIKE BEFORE ITS NOT HIM ITS ME I TELL HIM THAT IM TIRED HE ASKS ME ABOUT 5 TIMES TO HAVE SEX AND I KNOW HE SHOULDNT IM HIS GIRLFRIEND I BEEN WITH FOR 2 YEARS WE HAVE GREAT SEX. BUT I TRIED TO EXPLAIN TO HIM HOW SOMETIEMS ALL I WANAN DO IS SLEEP I MEAN I DONT TELL HIM NO ALL THE TIME WE DO HAVE SEX BUT HE WANTS IT EVERYDAY N SOME DAYS IM REALLY REALLY TIRED I TRIED TO EXPLAIN THIS TO HIM LAST NIGHT SAYING I LOVE U SOMETIMSE ALL I WANNA DO IS SLEEP PLZ UNDERSTAND WELL HE STARTED SAYING THAT I DONT LOVE HIM THAT IM MORE WORRIED BOUT OTHER PEOPLE N OTHER THINGS SO I TOLD HIM WELL MAYBE I DONT NEED A BOYFRIEND N HE WENT OUTRAGES. i KNOW IM WORKING TO MUCH BUT RIGHT NOW I HAVE BILLS TO PAY N THINGS TO WORRY ABOUT AND ITS NOT LIKE HE HELPS ME O UT HE WORKS BUT DOESNT GET PAID CLOSE TO WHAT I GET IN ONE JOB. I DUNNO WHAT TO DO I JUST BEEN FEELING REALLY DRAINED MY SELF AND I DONT WANNA MAKE HIM FEEL BAD BUT BUT I FEEL REALLY STRESSED OUT I HARDLY HAVE TIME FOR MY SELF AND I HAVE TO MAKE TIME FOR HIM N FOR MY FAMILY LAST NIGHT I COULDNT TAKE IT I BROKE DOWN N CRIED I DUNNO WHAT TO DO
 
posted by drained (age 22) on 9/16/2009 @2:02:44 PM •
 
taking on so many things at one time can really be draining. working two jobs and school is stressful enough and then finding time to include your loved ones in your life as well can become a diffucult task. honestly, your boyfriend should be a lot more understanding and supportive of you. you seem to be very driven and that's a wonderful quality that he should admire about you. making you feel guilty is unfair to you as well as to your relationship. try your best to set aside time to write down everything you do during the day with the times included. then try and specify a certain time each day to do things such as homework, rest, spend time with your boyfriend, visit family, etc. an example might be doing homework every night at 9:30 until 11:30, seeing your boyfriend friday nights and weekends, and maybe doing lunch with him during the week in between jobs or classes. from what you said, it sounds like he is being a bit immature about the situation. you have to think about what's best for you right now, all your hard work will always pay off. also, try and straighten out your bills and save as much as you can from your second job. if you can pay of what you can in debt. quit that second job and work more hours at your main job. this will allow you more time and if you manage your money right, after you pay your main debts off you won't need that second job. explain to your boyfriend that you love him and you need his support and your worth a supportive man. if he can't accept that then...if you love something let it go, if it doesnt come back, YOU"LL FIND SOMETHING BETTER!!
 
posted by monica (age 25) on 9/20/2009
 


 
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