relationship advice (post new situation)
"baby or leave?"
Im 19 years old, my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for a year. He has a 4 year old son that i just found out that HE wanted and his ex didnt want it. And he also proposed to her. Now we have been together for year, he hasnt proposed but talked about it. and he says that he doesnt want a baby. He has said to his brother that the only reason is that he dont want to get up in the middle of the nite. And he says that i dont even like getting up in the nite to take the puppy out. (wich i wouldnt mind at all if i didnt have to bundle up to go outside in the dark and winter weather!) Anyways how do i get him to want to start a family with ME!? i love him alot but i'm thinking if i am waisting my time with someone who dont want a family and i do. ??? HELP!!
posted by Ashley on 1/11/2008 @6:15:07 AM •
you shouldn't worry that he hasn't proposed, but you really need to decide if he is worth possibly never having kids of your own. you are so young to make such a huge decision that will affect your life always. think about what is important to you- this guy or kids. also, will you always feel bitter toward his little boy because your bf would never give you a chance to have your own? it may sound silly to feel bitter toward a kid, but i think that is something very common. don't let someone else make big, important decisions for you.
posted by mindy on 1/11/2008
I think the signs are all ther for you and you know this, But yet its hard to walk away. all I have to say is that every women should be put on a pedel stool, just has well as we she take care of them. If this man was truly in love with you then he would have no doughts about your future together as a matter of fact he would be looking forward to it, AShly needs to spoil,love,relax and take some time away from him. You will find some ome that will make you feel complete- just give it some time and let go of watch your holding on to now! believe me speaking from the past, I know its not going to be easy, but it will be worth it down the rode. Good luck to you and God bless you! and no I'm not a bible thumper, just keeping it real. respond back if you like

posted by bRANDY on 1/14/2008

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