relationship advice (post new situation)
I have been separated from my ex-wife since the 2000, we have a little girl.But she's using this girl as way to hang to the relationship. I need closure so I can lead some semblance of a normal life again. But this woman is obsessed. I don't know what to do without hurting my little girl in the process.
posted by ananymous on 1/29/2008 @10:15:47 PM •
I would try to talk to her, explain to her that you can't keep holding onto this and that you both need to move on.

I can understand why she would hold on though, and using a child to do that can be dangerous when the child grows up, being in the middle of a mum's obsession isn't really a very good thing.

As hard as it is to do, she needs to let go of you. Try talking to her, and if that doesn't work, see if you can get one of her friends to help? Just try not to put it on her as though she can prove you wrong, or anything like that. I just got out of a 9 month long relationship which was abusive and I only got into it because I was trying to prove someone something.

Horrible things happen with jealousy.

Hope things work out.
posted by Cassie-annabel on 1/31/2008
Kids at any age can be talked to. I tell my kids anything so if call a family conference & talk to both of them. Things will work out & you both will be friends. Good luck.
posted by Marla on 1/31/2008

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