relationship advice (post new situation)
"Move On...or...Give Him Time?"
My story in a nutshell...
I was with my boyfriend for 3 years. We rarely ever fought, bedtime play was good, life in general was good...unfortunately I became impatient with our lack of movement. I wasn't in a hurry to get married but wanted to feel like I contributed more to the house, which was his...I was renting my house to a friend. One night we had a big fight and we had been drinking...niether one of us was nice. He told me to get out and I told him he wouldn't have his company without my help financially. The next day I left thinking we needed time to cool off...he never asked me to come home...he said he needed time to heal. I am more forgiving in general and felt that we needed to be together to fix things. After 2 months he said he wanted to break up so he could take care of some stuff on his own, he wants to pay off the loan I helped with to prove he could stand alone. The night of the break up he said he still loved me, cared about me, wanted to try again and other things along this line. It has been 2 months since then. We have not gone more then 4-5 days without talking...both of us keeping contact. Last week he said he wants to be friends because he thinks we have to be friends agian before we can be lovers agian. He still loves me, misses me and wants me but doesn't want to see me. I'm extreemly confused on if he actually wants to 'try' again or if he is just that guy who wants to be friends after a break up. He is in his late 30's. Do I give him the friendship he wants, the time he says he needs and hope that he wants more then friendship?...Or do I quit on him, smash the love I feel for him and walk away? I truely thought this man was who I was going to spend the rest of my life with and I just want to know if he means what he is saying or if he's bull****ting me. Please help.
posted by Christine (age 30) on 7/19/2011 @2:42:05 PM •
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