relationship advice (post new situation)
I met this guy at a club. We have been hooking up, but no sex, for a few months. He told me he doesn't want a relationship from the beginning. I was okay with that at first but of course I am starting to have feelings for him. In the beginning the asking to hook up was mutual but now it seems like I have been the only one asking. I also don't text him for a few weeks to see if he would text me but he doesn't. I've asked him why he doesn't want a relationship and he has told me because he is picky or he likes Spanish girls (I'm not Spanish). He indirectly told me he doesn't want me as a girlfriend but I am stilling hooking up with him. I kind of already know the answers to the questions I'm about to ask but it would probably help if someone said it to me with honesty. Does he like me or even care about me? Is it just a hook up for him? I just need some advice on what to do with this situation. Thank you.
posted by Darryn (I'm a girl) (age 20) on 5/12/2012 @9:36:51 PM •
I think that you should overall stop talking to him. If he's saying "I like spanish girls" and your not Spanish , he's basically telling you in other words in not that into you. Also with you no texting him for awhile, and him not saying hey or anything your not on his mind at all. What I do when I like a guy is I text him for atleast 2 or 3 days straight then when the 3rd or 4th day comes I won't text him to see if he'll text me and if he does that means he's into me, and if he doesn't , I means he's not. So I hope I've helped you with your situation atleast a little and I wish you the best.
posted by Sabrina on 5/15/2012
The thing that throws me is the no-sex hook up deal. I am wondering what he is getting out of this? Darryn, he doesn't know what he wants and he is keeping you around as an option. He doesn't know if you might have a place in his life or not. It is unfair to you to be a mere convenience in his life. His attitude is: "I have nothing to offer you emotionally, I don't know what I want, you just happened to come into the picture...."

He truly has nothing to offer to your life. He is not a very good person to be placing you as a take-it-or-leave-it option. Blow him off... he might be more interested if you do, but I wouldn't consider it worthwhile. He doesn't care about anyone but himself and you deserve better.
posted by Cassandra (age 29) on 5/28/2012

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