family advice (post new situation)
 
 
"no included in the wedding"
 
married 14 years to a man that has been married twice before with one child with each women....

recently his oldest child (Katie ) of 31 (divorced from her mother since she was 1 1/2 year old )...his daughter married for the first time. relationship with Dad & Daughter very stressful.... only call him wanting money making promises to pay it back and not following through. years of us not knowing where she lived.... 3 children ... first two by same man never married... the last child (don't know who the father is) all through our marrage when they would talk on the phone it was always I did this or I did that... he would never included the word us in the conversations... I use to tell him I was there why don't you include me... he would just get up-set ... so I figured it wasn't worth the fight...he didn't even tell her we got married until a couple of months after we got married and was at the wedding...she pull him aside and said to him.... I thought you said you would never marry her.
... I truly believe she has found the right man for her needs... he is a professional name which has a very large income, home, cars . there is a age difference of 19 years.. he also has 3 children... one in college, one out of college... and a 11 year old. the two older children didn't come to the wedding or any of the celebration.

I attended the wedding rehearsal since I thought I should supporting my husband... which my husband was very nerveness about the whole situaton... at the wedding rehearsal when they call out for the mother.... I pop-up and went over there... the wedding planner asked who I was.... I told her I was her step mother.... she then ran over to Katie and after a conversation with the her .... I was then and only then included in the wedding.... ....

I wasn't included in the photos, or the wedding program .... but my husband was....

me and my husband talked..... he said he would like to have a relationship with his daughter.... (I believe he should as any parent should).... so I asked him.... if you want me to have a relationship with your daughter you going to have to talk to her.... he said she was in the wrong and he doesn't blame me for feeling the way I do....

His other child which is a son 23 yrs. with the second wife ... has always treated me with respect...

...... my husband is very good about saying he's going to do and never does... and acting like it never happen... and thinks time well heal things...


question..... should I give in .... and keep on getting being belittled... or stand up for myself.....
I do understand unconditional love with your children ... but when my son ever said something out of dis-repect with my husband I adress the situation right way and very up front.
 
posted by Denise (age 53) on 12/13/2012 @3:49:46 PM •
 
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