relationship advice (post new situation)
 
 
"Moving in to move forward"
 
My boyfriend and I have dated off and on for 10 years. We lived together for about 2 1/2 years over 3 years ago. It got to the point where I was unhappy and paying most of the bills and rent so I moved out. We still managed to stay together trying to make it work. Sometimes it's good and sometimes it's not.
Our last breakup was over a year ago and only for a month or so. Since we got back together from that breakup, I've spent almost every night at his place and rarely anytime at mine. I feel like I am paying for a glorified storage unit, so the moving in idea does appeal.
However, back in February I went on a cruise with my grandmother and met a guy. We enjoyed each others' company and kissed and made out nothing more. We both understood that we'd probably never see each other ever again, but decided to keep in contact via facebook. When I got back, my boyfriend found out that I was talking to the guy and I told him we'd kissed. I lied about how many times and that we'd also made out. I did agree to not talk to the guy any more.
A couple weeks later after several fights, I told my boyfriend we'd made out. He said that he wasn't sure if he could trust me again, which is understandable. Since then I've come clean and told him everything, how many times we kissed and made out, the whole story. He still doesn't trust me and is not sure he can let it go since I cheated on him. I get that.
My problem is that he still wants to move in together, we both still want to try to make our relationship work. My dilemma is that I'm scared to move in. I don't want to have us fight more than we do and if it doesn't work between us, have us be stuck in a lease we can't afford to break.
What do I do?
 
posted by Ashley (age 25) on 8/4/2014 @9:29:52 AM •
 
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