relationship advice (post new situation)
"He dumped me for her"
Ok, so I dated this guy for only like a month. And then his ex who he dated for like 2 and a half years came back into town and decided to tell him that she still loved him. Well he apparently still had feelings for her, so he dumped me but not without a lot of trouble. He cried more than I did and couldn't stop telling me how amazing I am and how much he loves me and doesn't want to hurt me. Well now we've been broken up for over a month and I still can't get him out of my head. Its gotten to the point where my parents are now sending me to a phychiatrist and wanting to put me on depression medication. Whenever I see him I start shaking and can't stop. I feel like a fool, but the worst part of it all is that he knows I still love him. When I see him he always gives his smile that makes me want to cry, and waves like he knows that I still belong to him. I want to give up on him, but I also don't want to either. He has told his friend that he can't say no to me, and that he just wants to wait the situation out between the two of us girls. The girl he did choose to be with is plain and simple nothing like me, she is very angry, 2 years older than him, controling, and none of his friends like her. I'm not saying that to make myself sound better but its just the facts. All of his friends love me, loved when I came and partied with them, and my moto with him was that it's his life he can't do whatever he wants, I just want to be a part of it. I don't know what to do. Should I wait for him or just give up and move on? And even then I don't know if I could move on.
posted by Wynter Rose on 2/27/2008 @8:38:22 AM •
Ok. So I had a freakishly similar situation. I don't if it will work for you personally, but here's how I dealt with it- You have to cut off all contact with this guy. No glances, smiles, etc.. You don't even need to be anywhere near him for at least a month. I don't know if that's possible. The way you wrote the story, made it seem like you hadn't much of a choice to see him.(work, school, etc) But if it is possible, that's the best way to start the healing process.
posted by Ryan on 2/28/2008

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