relationship advice (post new situation)
"what to do??"
I met a guy named Dustin about a week ago. I was going to sneak out of my house the night I met him just to hang out, but we both fell asleep. The next night I snuck out and he came and picked me up at about two o'clock in the morning. yeah, we had just met, and yeah, we messed around, and by messed around I mean we had sex. we fell asleep, woke up around 10:30, got dressed, ate, had sex again, took a shower together, and then he took me home before he went to work at around 4 in the afternoon. I'm grounded, but it was totally worth it.
what I'm concerned or confused about is that the next day I went over to Dustin's house and we were just hangin' out and I asked him what he wanted our friendship or relationship to be, and I said I knew what I wanted it to be, but I didn't know what it was. He asked what I wanted it to be and I said a monogamous relationship, like boyfriend and girlfriend. I told him (rather cheesily) that he could be the boyfriend. (lol) he said that he didn't know what to say. and then I had to leave suddenly, so we didn't get to talk about it. later he said that honestly he didn't know what he wanted to do, but he wanted me to know that he didn't know.
I've seen him since then, and whenever one of us has to go, we kiss, and he starts it.
it's really messing with me. what should I do or say?? I'm confused.
posted by Dorothy_Rose (age 18) on 3/3/2008 @11:06:56 PM •
I think that he really needs to think about what he wants...cause it sounds like he is kinda messing with your head! I would be confused too! i guess i would just tell him ( at the right time) that you want a relationship...maybe not this second but you would like one with him...and he needs to figure out what he wants. And tell him that it is kinda confusing you and he is kinda messing with your head. Just tell him what you think....And hopfully he has the answer you were wishing to hear. If not then he is not worth it!!
posted by stacy (age 18) on 3/5/2008
most guys are players, just remember that. they know exactly what they want and will do or say whatever they have to in order to get it. dont continue sleeping with him just in hope he will ask you out one day because it might not happen and you probably wont feel too great after. if you can deal with the whole "friends with benefits" thing then go ahead, have fun but if not then dont put yourself through that.... believe me ive been there and u dont realize how your hurting yourself until its over and u look back on it... dont make the same mistakes i did.... dont let anyone use you.. feel free to email
posted by S on 3/30/2008

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