family advice (post new situation)
No this isn't just a situation where my younger brother teases me etc..
He's only 11 and he's absolutly terrible. Constantly swearing in the house, and to my parents, cutting school, gettin into fights, we even caught him smoking cannibis. I can't believe he's only 11, i dread to think what he'll be like when he's older. He always gets what he wants, and his own way. my mom n dad have never treated him bad. Theres contant arguments , punching doors etc.
No one seems to be doing anything.
It's tearing our family apart
please help
posted by lilly (age 18) on 3/6/2008 @10:45:56 AM •
As much as I'd like to say this is just a stage he's going through, it's obviously developed into something more. Now it is possible that because he is young, he still hasn't matured enough yet to understand what he's doing is very immature. But that is probably is very unlikely.

The only two options I can give more of your family, not just you, is the following. One, and probably the best, is start to punish the kid. Not physically, but ground him and such. Become more strict. Trust me, we had a neighbor very much like your brother, minus the cannabis problem. Finally, when he was around 12, his parents finally stepped up there game, and he's a lot better, and a whole lot nicer.

The other thing, is probably to get some pro-help here. If it seems that the first option up there, and the fact he may not mature out of this stage, then it's best to get someone who really knows what they're doing to figure this out, and hopefully be able to control your brothers rages and such.

Besides that, there's always SuperNanny. Just a thought =)
posted by Jon the Mase (age 17) on 3/6/2008
No offense, but did your parents ever really punish him for doing things he wasn't suppose to? A lot of parents try to be "friends" instead of parents. They can't let your 11 year old brother boss them around and scare them. They are his parents. Someone needs to put a foot down and control him.
posted by Megan on 3/17/2008

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