life advice (post new situation)
 
 
"every body lives with me"
 
I have my whole family living with me and im only 22. I've always had my sister living with me who is now 17, but now my brother lives with me, and my non working mom lives with me and she doesn't even try to better her self. I can't stand her living with me. I only have a 2 bedroom apartment. I don't even have my own room. I let my sister have her own room ( being that she's 17 ) I can't even start a relationship because I have no space in my house. I have no privacy. My mom actually has no where to go, she has no job, no car, no money and no one to turn to because she's turned them all against her. But i don't want to be providing for her. Thats not my job. How do i tell her to leave and that she's not my responsibility? I work to hard to provide for my own son and my sister ( who is her daughter ) to let her just sit around my house and not do anything for herself.
 
posted by Renee Allcock (age 22) on 3/10/2008 @9:37:22 PM •
 
The toughest part about your situation isn't really getting your mom out of the house, but motivating her to do something to enable her to suceed once she leaves. I mean, yeah it is definitely hard to keep a whole family in a two bedroom apartment, but to kick her out immedeality is very risky.

I think the first thing you need to do is talk with her about the situation you are in. I mean the worst thing that can happen is that she gets so upset she leaves the whole family. That does accomplish the goal of getting her out, but that's not the results you want I'm sure.

Instead, when you talk with her, motivate to become active. Whether it be continuing school, applying for jobs, or even just trying to be more active within the family, make sure she understands that she is hurting your family relationship. Let her know it's time for her to do her part, and get back in the work force. Don't let the fact she's your mother hinder you from feeling bad about forcing her out of the house, but make sure she's prepared for it.

I mean, it's maybe just that she's afraid she won't succeed. But anyways, I really hope your able to solve your issues without straining any family relationships.
 
posted by Jon the Mase (age 17) on 3/11/2008
 


 
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