relationship advice (post new situation)
 
 
"my husband"
 
well it is kind of a long story.... but to make a long story short, i kinda rushed into things and married him before i knew the real him. he said he wanted to marry me he said he loved me but he wants to control everything i do, who i talk to, who my friends are. i love him and i dont even know why anymor. he says he loves me but he talks to other girls and brings them to our house..... i know he treats me horrible i just love him for some odd reason and it is hard for me to deal with.
 
posted by Zoe (age 20) on 3/30/2008 @11:32:04 AM •
 
i know im young but if your husband is bringing other girls to your house then he doesnt have enough respect for you and isnt worth your time....if you stay you will regret it later.
 
posted by Shana (age 18) on 3/30/2008
 
well it seems wierd not to know why you love him. Maybe you did rush into things. Thats pretty messed up that he brings other girls over. Just think if he does that what he does when you arent home. Maybe you two should get a divorce or seperate for a while. If i can help or if you need someone to talk to email at ncv2007~AT~****
-Nick
 
posted by Nick (age 19) on 3/30/2008
 
Okay I went to therapy because my boyfriend did this to me. Listen to me right now...you need to get the hell out of that relationship now. You don't love him. You used to be in love with him...but now it's co-dependency. I went through the same thing. I just recently grew the courage to come out of my relationship and it's really hard to stand up on my own two feet. He used to control me and make all my decisions for me..it's like learning how to walk again. I'm serious...it's only going to get worse. They start off controlling, then they get posessive...and then they cheat...then they get physical. I was abused by my ex boyfriend...even up until 4 days before our daughter was born. Please don't do this to yourself. I know you feel like you love him, and you don't wanna be with anybody else, and you keep telling yourself that things will get better...but they wont. They never will. I almost married my ex, and let me tell you...if i had done that...I'd be dead at his hands. If you can sit here and say you love him for some odd reason but you don't know why...it's because you DONT love him. You THINK you do. You're just so used to him being there...and in a sick way that you don't see, you rely on him. You're so used to feeling like ****...you're afraid. You gotta get out. He'll never change.
 
posted by Michelle (age 18) on 4/1/2008
 


 
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