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ok i have this friend named tommy. we have been friends for a while now. i think i am falling for him. i talked to him about it and he said that he considers me his best friend and he dont want us to date because if something happens and we break up he is afraid that our friendship wont be the same anymore. i understand that comepletely. i dont know what to do. he is all i ever think about and i want to cry whenever i think about him because i know that there will probably never be an US. i got it bad and i dont know how to handle it. what should i do?
 
posted by stephanie (age 18) on 3/31/2008 @8:04:21 AM •
 
ok i have been in the same situation before. jus realize that he is right u have it better jus bein friends because its better to have him as ur friend then nuthen at all u kno.

hope this helps
 
posted by blakey (age 18) on 3/31/2008
 
hey steph, i want you to read this bulletin, maybe this will help.

if not then, just then just limit the time you are with him. because if you do "got it bad" then you'll just push him away and that will ruin your friend ship.

Take Some Time and actually Read this
this is a GUY TALKING.


ITS THE 7TH GRADE

I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called 'best friend'. I stared at her. Long, silky hair. And I wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that. I knew it. After class she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before, And I handed them to her. She said 'thanks'. And gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted,, to tell her. I want her to know that I don't want to be 'just friends'. I love her but I'm too shy to tell her, And I don't know why.



IT'S JUNIOR YEAR.


My phone rang. On the other end it was her. She was in tears. Mumbling on and on about how her love had broken her heart. She asked me to com,e over because she didn't want to be alone. So I did, As I sat next to her on the sofa. I stared at her soft eyes. Wishing she was mine. After 2 hours. A Drew Barrymore movie. And 3 bags of chips. She decided to go to sleep. She looked at me. Said 'thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her. I want her to know. That I don't want to be 'just friends'. I love her but I'm too shy to tell her. And I don't know why.


IT'S SENIOR YEAR.


The day before prom. She walked to my locker. 'My date is sick' she said. He's not going to go. Well. I didn't have a date and in 7th grade. We made a promise that if neither of us had dates. We'd go together just as 'best friends'. And so we did.



IT'S PROM NIGHT.


After everything was over with. I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her. She smiled at me. I wanted her to be mine. But she doesn't think of me like that. And I know it. Then she said 'I had the best time. Thanks!'. And she gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her. I wanted her to know that I don't want to be 'just friends'. I love her but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why.



IT'S GRADUATION DAY.



A day passed. And then a week. And then a month. Before I could blink. It was graduation day. I watched her. Perfect body. Floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine. But she doesn't think of me that way. And I know it. Before everyone went home. She came to me in her smock and hat. And cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulders and said 'you're my best friend'. 'Thanks!'. And gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her. I wanted to know that I wanted to be more than 'just friends'. I love her but I'm too shy. And I don't know why.


IT'S A FEW YEARS LATER.



Now I sit in the pews of the church. A church that she is getting married in now. I watched her say 'I do' an drive off to her new life. Married to another man. I wanted her to be mine. But she didn't see me like that. And I knew it. But before she drove away. She came to me and said 'You came!. Thanks!'. And she kissed me on the cheek. I wanted to tell her. I wanted her to know that I didn't want to be 'just friends'. I love her but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why.



YEARS PASSED.


I look down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my 'best friend'. At the service they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it said. 'I stare at him. Wishing he was mine. But he doesn't notice me like that. And I know it. I wanted to tell him, I wanted him to know. That I don't want to be 'just friends'. I love him but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me'. I wish I did too. I thought to myself and I cried.
 
posted by jeanie (age 21) on 3/31/2008
 


 
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