relationship advice (post new situation)
 
 
"feeling like giving up."
 
i was in a 6 year relationship,we've been broke up for about 2 years now, but we are best friends,hes having a child and so what.ive actually tried moving on, but im stil around him and i go to him about EVERYTHING.but ive been just putting it in the lords hands.
after that i just didnt want any kind of relationships.
i tried talking to people and then i changed my mind.
i finally found someone that i REALLY care for,and thats NOT like me.
i showed him i cared and everything,we started talking.
and he even told me he liked me ole so much and blah blah blah.. and we've been together about 2 months,but his EX is been trying to start ****.
and just this morning he told me that he thought that we should just be friends for right now.and it hurts so bad,i havent felt this way in so long.
he tried telling me that he still wanted to be around and see me and sowhat,but just be friends,and hes actually the kind that will still come hang out with me.
but i dont know if that would be a good idea or not because i know that i still care and like him.
and now im just stuck AGAIN,and dont know what to do and where to turn.
im going to stay with my sister for a few weeks to get away from here, because im already having trouble with losing my job and everything,but i feel like im running,and i dont want to.



 
posted by Wendy (age 21) on 4/3/2008 @5:31:23 PM •
 
WELL WE'VE ALL HAD OUR HEARTS BROKEN ITS JUST SOMETHIN WE HAVE TO GET OVER. ALL I CAN TELL YOU IS TO SWEAR OFF BOYS FOR A WHILE, STOP LOOKING FOR MR RIGHT AND JUST HANG OUT N HAVE FUN. LIKE ME I DATED A GUY FOR 2 YRS HE DUMPED ME THEN DATED ANOTHER GUY FOR 3 YRS HE CHEATED ON ME, AFTER THAT I DIDNT EVEN LOOK AT A GUY FO A YR, AND NOW IM DATEING A GUY WHO IS AMAZING, AND I WASNT EVEN LOOKING. ITS JUST AMAZING WHAT TIME CAN GIVE YOU, GOOD THINGS REALLY DO COME TO THSE WHO WAIT JUST KEEP THAT IN YOUR HEAD NEXT TIME YOU THINK ABOUT YOUR EX, AND BEING FRIENDS AND AROUD HIM ALL THE TIME IS PROBABLY ONE OF THE WORST THINGS YOU COULD DO BC, SEEING HIM WILL JUST REMIND YOU OFF ALL THE THINGS YOU BEEN THROUGH, WHILE YOUR TRYING TO GET OVER HIM.
 
posted by FELICIA on 4/11/2008
 
Wendy, if you have been with him 2 months you shouldn't have to run just because his ex is trying to start s*** with you it unfair and morally wrong...she shouldnt even be contacting him, he is with you now and you need to sit him down and explain to him that she shouldn't be getting involved in your lives and he shouldnt be responding to anything she says. Is he living in the past or the present? you need to stand your ground and simply ask him to choose because if he's willing to listen to some s*** his ex said than it may hurt but you can do much better.... you deserve to be treated as number one and not have to fight for a happy relationship. So tell him to sit down and listen while you explain how you feel because untill you express how you're feeling to him you will end up always running. If you express yourself to him then you will feel a lot lighter inside and your job will get back on track to!
Keep your chin up
 
posted by Anonymous on 4/11/2008
 
I went through the same thing but I was with the man for 4 years, and had been good friends for 6 years before we got together and we broke up March of 2007. Here is what I did...
I talked to several men who liked me but made it very clear that I only wanted to be friends. This boosted my self confidence and helped me keep in mind that there are plenty of good fish in the sea. I didn't want to just jump back into dating because I did miss my ex and didnt want to be hurt again. After a year of talking with these wonderful men I am finally secure in dating. Dont give up there is the special someone out there that you are looking for.
 
posted by Christina (age 21) on 4/11/2008
 
I'm sorta going threw the same thing you are but I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 years now! and were having problems hes not happy on how I've been treating him for the past year or two cause hes done things that hurt me. and my sessional job is ending here in a few weeks. lol so were kinda going threw the same thing. but you need to ask your current bf what he wants and why does he wants it. if he says you cant be together then you don't need to be around him as much at you used to cause your never gonna get over him. you need to keep yourself busy and do things you like and better yourself i know how you feel trust me having a broken heart is not fun it's okay to cry but don't be by yourself go shopping exercise go for a walk read i dont know what you like to do? if you need to talk you can e-mail me ~AT~ xxbecca3125~AT~comcast.net or if you have a myspace mines www.myspace.com/bj3125
 
posted by rebecca (age 18) on 4/11/2008
 
My advice to you is to clear your head... You heart wants what is right but it seems as your head is telling you differently... Since it was only 2 months you may have been thinking you were really falling for him but in all reality how do you really know?... Get out there and find someone who is going to be mature... Someone that doesn't stay friends with all his exs because obviously that is a problem here... I wish you the best of luck and don't think of it as running!... You're taking opportunities that were not previously appearing!
 
posted by Josie on 4/11/2008
 
Sounds like something similar to my situation only I wasn't in a long term relationship like yours.. I mean it was long but not that long.. anyway.. I suggest being by yourself for a while.. I know it seems retarded now.. but trust me.. you haven't fully healed from heartache and you're just trying to fill that empty space in your heart. Don't. Right now focus on you.. Do what you gotta do to move on.. I'm not saying it's gonna be easy but trust me.. Once you start focusing on yourself and getting back together.. You'll see your ex one day and honestly those feelings you once had will finally end. And all you'll feel is that friendship you both hold dear. You'll find someone one day but right now like i said focus on what you need to do to get yourself back together.
 
posted by Jamie (age 21) on 4/11/2008
 


 
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