relationship advice (post new situation)
"Should I be worried? I know he loves me!"
SO i need some advice, i guess you could say......I found out im pregnant the 23rd. my boyfriend of almost 9 months is really happy! he says he doesnt want to have a baby with someone and not be with them and he said he still wanted to marry me. So he is with his brother and his brothers girlfriend in independence which is a town like 35 min from me. I havent seen him n 2 weeks and we barely talk. It seems like he only calls me every 3-5 days. He says its because he doesnt have a cell and his brother gets mad about him using his, well i dont know if i buy that. the reason hes up there is too get a job so he says...... so we can be ready when the baby i dont know should i be worrying? Or am i worried for no reason?
posted by liz (age 18) on 4/5/2008 @12:48:39 AM •
he is prob playin u ive been through the same thing and goin through it again they will say anything but he might just be scared just sit down and talk to him and see how he feels bout the child
posted by stephanie (age 18) on 4/11/2008
If he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him, I wouldn't worry too much about it. He might be excited and then in a way a little scared or nervous(like most men are). If doesn't start to come around later on then I would be worried. Even then I still wouldn't worry about it because you're pregnant and you don't need that stress from a guy that can easily be replaced with a better one.
posted by Brandy (age 18) on 4/11/2008
hello, I would honestly be a lil worried myself. If he was calling you atleast once a day i wouldn't mind it but, since he rarely calls, that's something to think about, i think. I have a daughter who will soon be turning 2yrs, & my fiancee was always by my side, durring pregnancy. (when i wanted him that is. HeHe) but, i would deffinately go with your first instinct & stick with it! Congrats on the new baby & good luck girl!
posted by Heather (age 20) on 4/11/2008
I would say give him the benefit of the doubt, but be very weary. Dont accuse him of something, without proof, yet be very watchful. You've not been with him really all that long and suddenly he's got fatherhood dumped on him as well. He may just be a little scared, or things could be like he says. But still it's probably still too soon to say either way as of yet.
posted by Candace (age 32) on 4/11/2008
just let him know.. talk to him. if your having his baby you should defiantly be able to be open with him. just let him know that you need him now..
posted by haley (age 16) on 4/11/2008
wow, well, i wouldn't be taking it easy..
if that's what you mean. He might be a little scared, i mean, having a baby isn't exactly 'stress-free' for a person.. especially you, must be pretty tough..
but, anyways..
I think i would confront him about the problem,
really talk it thru..
either that, or i'd go there, and see him..
and Then talk about whether or not you two will still be together, as a family..
i really don't know what to say, because i'm not in that situation..
just hope for the best, i guess..
i don't know if you are the type of person to even think of something like this, but, please.. do NOT get an abortion.
i think that would be the worse decision you could ever make..

The Best of Luck!


posted by Jordyn on 4/11/2008

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