relationship advice (post new situation)
well i met this guy 2 years ago and from the moment i met him i knew there was something there. We started meeting up out at clubs and hooking up and a few weeks later i asked him out. HE told me he was sorry and that he didn't feel that way about me and never would, but i wouldn't give up. I went out every weekend for the next 8 months so i knew he didn't pick up with any other girl, and we started hanging out more and more. Over this time i kept telling him how i felt and he kept saying he was sorry he didn't feel anything for me. Then one night he told me he had to tell me something, he told me he loved me, i remember it was the happiest moment of my life. We dated for the next 10 months and it was perfect;. He was sweet and caring and told me how lucky he was to have me and that i was the best thing that ever happened to him. He told me he was sorry for putting me through so much and he would love me for ever. Then he woke up one day and told me he didn't love me anymore and it's over. I didn't wanna believe him. SO much had happened in his life., his parents had separated, his mum and dad were both suffering depression, and he had to look after everyone. It all got to much and he broke down and i thought he would come back to me, because i know how much he loved me. I was his first serious relationship. It's been a month now since we broke up and i still cry all day everyday, i can't let him go. After all i went through to get him, I'm not ready to say goodbye,. What do i do?? I know he wont come back, he tells me his sorry but he doesn't feel the same anymore. how do u live without someone you love so much? the happiest moments of my life now hurt me more than i knew it was possible to hurt
posted by katie on 4/7/2008 @2:34:12 PM •
I'm sorry you are heartbroken, but right now you need to embrace this. Shutting it out and trying to let go too soon will only make you sit down 10 years later and realize you still have unresolved issues. It's only been a month, give yourself a break. I once read in Cosmo that it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them. Which means that if you loved this guy for a year then you have a good year before anyone should expect you to be over it. I'm not saying mope around for the next 11 months because you can. Just give yourself time and remember that everyone goes through this sometimes.
posted by Nancy on 4/7/2008

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