family advice (post new situation)
"need a car"
my mom has four kids and im the oldest. You know how the oldest usually get everything well yea right try telling that to my mom she has not bout me anything since i was 13 except like food and yea thats it. I have two sister 10 and 8 years old and one brother who is 5 and they get anything they want and more. I'm not spoiled and i don't think a car should be handed to me but no one is willing to even think about helping me it kills me that she will have me run and stuff for her or pick the kids up and drop them of but i'm never aloud to use her car to go anywhere i have a job i could pay for gas or anything she just wont let me!!!!!!!!!!!!!
posted by boogie woogie on 4/7/2008 @2:44:40 PM •
I know exactly how you feel. My mom was the same way with me. I was the oldest and I had to do everything for her. It's not fair, but I had to go to the store and get her grocieries, take my brother and sister to and from school, to their friends houses and pick them up. But ir I wanted to use her car just for me, to go to a friends house or something the answer was always no. Now i'm older and I think if I would have tried to explain to her how I felt she probably would have listened to me. So maybe if you try to sit your mom down and talk to her without making it sound like your blaming her She just might come to some kind of agreement. Tell her how you feel and what you want. I know it's not fair but if she is a single mom like mine was, she relies on you way more than she should. But if you want a car and the responsibility that comes with that you have to be willing to make comproises.
posted by Justine (age 20) on 4/7/2008
First of all I think you should talk to your mom. Just sit down with her and explain that you would like to use the car to go do someting fun. Make sure she knows you'll be paying for the gas. Also since you have a job try helping her pay for the insurance. Talk to her about getting your own vehicle; explaining that you could basically pay for it yourself. There are a lot of good cheap vehicles out there just talk to'll help!!
posted by Stormy (age 19) on 4/7/2008
i agree that you need to have a very direct and honest conversation with your mom. tell her how you feel. tell her what you feel you are entitled to (respectfully and without making demands), and tell her what you are willing to give in return. the ultimate solution in any family problem is honesty and communication.
posted by Joe (age 20) on 4/11/2008

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