relationship advice (post new situation)
"Vacation to Italy by myself or my ex?"
I'm going to admit it, I made a really ignorant and rash decision. I asked my ex to go on a "rendezvous/affair" trip with me last week. He agreed, and we were suppose to go to the Carribean, but we found an incredibly cheap flight to Rome, Italy.

We booked it, and the flight is in less than a week. I am having a dilemma to whether I should go alone or with him. Let's face it, Italy is very romantic and I never pictured going with anyone there but my husband. I don't want to waste it with my ex, who is 10 years older than me, recently divorced with two children. (please bare with me, I'm smarter than I seem)

But at the same time, I feel that we have this crazy whirlwind passionate love that would be perfect for Italy. Althought, I'm scared that the love we had, as well as bad feelings, will be rekindled during this trip.

In retrospect, should I travel alone and do some self reflection and maybe smarten up? OR, should I just let my inhibitions go and travel with my ex?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
posted by Danielle (age 22) on 6/1/2008 @12:33:58 AM •
for me... it would depend on the reason this person is your ex. if it's because of bad communication or something just didn't feel right, then a trip could help out. but if it's because there's too much drama and baggage, or if he did something to really hurt you, then it should be out of the question... and, if there's a chance at all that he's going to ruin it for you, then it should be out of the question, too. italy is one place i've always wanted to go, and i'd be pretty angry if somebody messed that up for me in some way.
posted by jon on 6/3/2008

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