relationship advice (post new situation)
"getting married..."
I met this guy a while back. We hit it off instantly. From the first night we met, we could talk for hours about nothing. We have the same ways of thinking, we literally read each other's minds sometimes. We can finish each other's sentences. We view life in the same way. We have so much in common, and we are so close and love each other so much. And he loves my daughter as well. He's so amazing. And he's not perfect, no one is. I know relationships always start off all peachy, and then usually downfall later on. But we've already been through the ''honeymoon" stage, and things are still great. Our only issue is we are so much alike that arguing is a nightmare. We are both way too stubborn lol. Neither one ever wants to admit they were's always the same story. We always get through it though. But we have only been together for 6 months, and we are engaged and plan to begin trying to get pregnant in a few weeks. We want to get married soon. I'd like to hear some opinions. Some people think we're crazy, some people think it's wonderful. I just, I don't feel scared at all...I'm only 19 years old. Everyone says I should be scared to be getting married and having a family at 19 years old. He is 20 and my daughters 1. Am I doing the right thing?
posted by Michelle (age 19) on 8/26/2008 @8:37:07 AM •
it may seem right for now, you may think he is perfect for you and vice versa, but you two have only been together for six months, marriage is for life. you are only19, and although legally you are an adult you still are growing to do emotionally. it is too soon for you two to be engaged, wait a few years and if you are still together, maybe he is the one.
posted by francesca on 8/29/2008
The first that must say about your situation is to please WAIT. It may be all peaches and cream now but you must consider a lot of things. One, you are way too young to marry yet.Second, you must thing about your daughter. Specially if he is not the father. Some step-dads are a nightmare afterward. I had one of those and he was a horrible man and I made the mistake to marry him so please take it from me. Third, do not rush into things. You have your whole life ahead of you and there are other things you should be considering like going to school preparing yourself for a future. Have you thought about a carreer soething that you may be interested in beside men. This is so very important because once you have a carreer you are an independent person and can offer your daughter and youself a better life without looking for a man for financial support. The best advice I can give you is to think for yourslef and your daughter that should be your priorities. The rest will come in due time. Take care and God Bless
posted by Lana on 9/7/2008

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