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"THE GUY I LOVE VS.THE GUY THATS RIGHT 4 "
 
THE GUY I LOVE VS.THE GUY THATS RIGHT 4 ME.. ADVICE: WHAT SHOULDI DO?
THE QUESTION IS THE FOLLOWING: The guy that iam in love with? or the good guy thats right for me?

I am Lucy and iam 20 Years old i have never had a serious, long term relationship,now that I am throwen between 2 guys that i have a lot of potential with.I find myself confused and i don't know what to do. need advice... heres background info on them.
candidate#1 ADVANTAGES: 1.know him for a year, have really good conversation with him 2. he is very understanding and easy going, know A lot more about me than anyonElse. 3. he has made me understand that he has never met anyone like me and wants to have a future with me.DISADVANTAGES: 1.he is eight years older than me witch is not that bad 2.At the time being we both live in differnt states, hes in texas and iam in arizona.3 he has a child already,with doesnt bother me at all but to my family it might.
EXTRA DETAIL: I HAVE REALLY STRONG FEELING TOWARDS HIM... BUT AT THE SAME TIME ITS CONFUSING BECAUSE HOM HIMSELF ADVICES ME TO GO FOR CANIDATE #2 INSTEAD OF HIM... HE REALLY WANTS THE BEST 4 ME...

canidate #2 ADVANTAGES:1. he is such a nice guy has alot going for him and life goals.2. known him for about 6 months he as well has made me understand that he wants a serious realationship with me.3. my family knows about him approve of him.
DISADVANTAGES: 1. He is 23 years old, which is the perfect differnce in age but i actually wanted some one older. 2.our conversation and communication is not the best, just regular here and there question and answers.3.he is a former friend of my brother whitch on his behave its ok...
EXTRA DETAIL: HE IS EVRYTHING I EVER WANTED IN A GUY.. BUT THE FEELINGS ARE NOT THAT STRONGS TOWARDS HIM.. WELL ATLEAST NOT YET...

There is aslo alot more differnces among the both, but i still find my self stuck between two walls. would appricate your advice
thanks lucy....
 
posted by lucy (age 20) on 12/24/2008 @12:21:54 PM •
 
Lucy dear, my vote is for number 2 guy if!! You can work on your communication skills because that is a connection you will always have a need too keep your relationship together, in the end when your grey and old that's what you'll need. Taking the step with going into a relationship with a child is a bigger deal then most girls think. You'll never be number one but the child will always be plus he is a lot older and far away and well age being so differeent could make you distant from one another. If he hasn't found someone yet he must be doing something wrong. Follow your heart but I vote 23 year old guy.
 
posted by bre (age 21) on 12/27/2008
 
Well lucy... I believe your a very smart young lady and im pretty sure even though you say you dont know who you want deep down inside you know who you want. Long distance relationships dont always work out. How are you certain that you are the only that hes is talking to just because he tell you dosent mean its true keep in mind that hes older and he know how to play his cards right. Take your time to get to know both of them before you get commited to either one of them
 
posted by claudia (age 24) on 12/29/2008
 


 
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