relationship advice (post new situation)
"Blinded by loneliness"
Ok....There is the guy I work with. He used to mess with me by trying to get my attention by yelling "hey" whenever he saw me pass by and trying to make me flinch, tease me, and try to make me laugh. We used to take shots at each other, but only to each other. That aside, we used to talk alot. Hang out during breaks and lunches and talk after work. Numbers never exchanged though. Then we had this falling out and didn't talk to each other for maybe like 2-3 months. Now that the drama is dead, he's back to his messing with me, taking shots at me, and finding ways to get my attention. Lately he's been on this whole men are superior to women and he knows the kind of woman I am. So I'm thinking he's saying this **** to get on my nerves or maybe he really believes it. Before, he never tried to say anything like that to me, now, I don't understand why he would try to get me worked up, especially about equality. We were discussing it and he was really being attentive to what I was saying. And everytime I got loud, because I am passionate in what I believe in, he'd tell me he's listening to me, calm down, and use my indoor voice. Which I thought was cute.

The talks we used to have were about work and life and school. Now when we're non-jokingly talking, I pull back and do not confide in him like I used to. Like when he asked if I was still goin to school, I just smiled and shrugged my shoulders. And now all I really do is smile or don't really react when he tries to mess with me. We still take shots at each other but most of the time I don't react and when he's tryin to mess with me, I act like I'm not paying attention and then I just start smiling in his face. We look at each other but I don't think it means anything. If it does, it means we were just looking around and happened to look at each other.

So I'm at a lost.....
posted by Tammy (age 21) on 5/4/2009 @2:21:17 PM •
try talking to him maybe this will work . like not just normal talking.
talking over a cup of coffee and just telling him what u feel or give him some hints if he want to date or something.
just open up maybe it was just a joke about the man woman thing .
posted by DARKooH (age 20) on 5/4/2009

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